***Warning: I'm on a rampage. Beware. I might use nice words.***
Is it too early to be writing on theoretical parenting? Is it too early to be giving my opinion on how things should be done? Well I don't give a damn. I have a lot to say about fathers and, expertise or no, I'm going to say it.
Now we'll move onto future fathers - boys in taking their first major steps towards paternity. Dare I even mention thier names? Dare I speculate on their ability to enter this life commitment? Well, with Scott {Last Name Deleted} - husband to my best friend, Tiffany {Her Maiden Name} {See Scott's Last Name}- I feel like its my moral obligation. After all, he eloped with a girl I consider my siter. It happened 5 poignant days BEFORE I wrote my poem "Maid of Honor." So being a chicken and not giving it to her had absolutely NO effect on history. They're married. For exactly one month and one day. I'm shell shocked. My theory is that they'll be expecting before the "real" wedding they want to have on their 1 year anniversary. I don't see how she can expect her parents to pay for it. I don't see how he can expect to have any respect from me. Eloping in a courthouse...honestly. They just got the lisence and did it. Dear God! I can't even imagine. Not yet. Not now. Maybe one day I'll want a courthouse wedding. Right now, I have too much to worry about - too much to ENJOY rather. He's so immature. If MY father can't manage himself, how will someone so dependent and baby-like have a child? How will he deal when he can't sleep at night because baby can't sleep? Hand the responsibility to Tiffany alone? Hand the fatherhood to the mother? That's what my dad did - does. Great running start. So to future Baby {Scott's Last Name Here} - my godchild? my neice/nephiew? - how will I welcome you? I'll love you endlessly, but your father will have a hell of a lot of asskissing to do before I pay him ten cents to start shining my shoes.
Our second feature future father (haha...alliterations are a bitch), Marco and his future bride Shanaza (also lovingly called "Naz"). After spending so much time thinking about Scott today, I couldn't help comparing how they'd handle fatherhood. I think Marco's MUCH more ready for it than Scott is. He's got a job. He's got money. He's almost 10 years older than Scotty (no one calls him "Scotty;" I just had to add it). Ok so he's living at home too. Okay so he doesn't want to stay with Publix, but he knows he wants his life to take a direction. Maybe that's something. Maybe it's not. I don't know. And through all our conversations, I realized that he's not the chauvanist he acted like. He's a shithead. He's an idiot. But he might make it. He might marry her, be faithful, and discover that being a father is all he needs. I really wish them the best. They don't have it, but they could get it. It's not really my issue. Just a thought.
To conclude, I've let my brain wander a ways down paths that I'm not supposed to be looking at just yet. I like them. I look forward to walking down them some day FAR FAR FAR in the future. (Ok, so a FEW of them aren't THAT beyond reach, but we won't go into that). I'm back to normal now though. I'll pick a good one. Future Babies of Mine, no worry. Your father won't be a shithead or selfish or immature enough to be your sibling. I won't make THEIR mistakes twice.
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At 8:07 PM,
Gato said…
Oh My Goodness! When did you find out about this?
Oh I wish she hadn't of done it. Hindsight can be a real bitch. God help her if she wakes up in a few months and realizes where she is in life. I hope it can work out, but it probably won't. Are they really planning to have a baby soon? Is he living with her in her dorm?
Oy vey.
I'm sorry sweetheart. I know how much hope you had for her. Hey, all may not be lost. Sometimes you just can't have anyone tell you anything, like that conversation peter and I had with you the night at his house. And you know what, she'll do a lot of growing and maybe she will come back to you and your friendship will grow even stronger. I just hope she is happy with her decision after she's done some growing.
::hug::
At 9:57 AM,
Victoria said…
Read my LJ for my reply to your comment
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